The Case for Marriage
So, you're thinking about getting married. Congratulations! It's a big decision, but it's also a great one. Marriage is a wonderful institution that can bring couples great joy and happiness.
But before you go getting excited and booking me as your celebrant, there's something you need to know: marriage is not all sunshine and rainbows. It's also full of arguments, bad breath, and the occasional fart.
That's right, marriage is messy. But it's also beautiful. It's the messy, beautiful mess of two people who love each other and choose to spend the rest of their lives together.
And that's why I'm a humanist. I believe that humans are capable of great things, and that marriage is one of those things. It's a way for us to show our love for each other, to build a life together, and to create something that's greater than ourselves.
Of course, marriage isn't for everyone. But if you're thinking about it, I encourage you to give it a try. It might be the best decision you ever make.
The benefits of marriage, from a humanist perspective:
Social support: Marriage provides you with a built-in support network. You have someone to share your joys and sorrows with, someone to lean on when you're feeling down, and someone to celebrate your successes with.
Shared goals: When you're married, you're not just working towards your own goals, you're also working towards your partner's goals. This can give you a sense of purpose and direction in life.
Personal growth: Marriage can help you grow as a person. You're constantly learning and adapting to your partner's needs, which can make you more compassionate and understanding.
Fun and companionship: Marriage is supposed to be fun! You get to spend your life with the person you love, doing things that you both enjoy.
The challenges that come with marriage:
Conflict: No two people are exactly alike, so there will inevitably be times when you disagree. This can be difficult to deal with, but it's an important part of any relationship.
Change: Things will change over time, both in your relationship and in your lives as individuals. This can be challenging, but it's also an opportunity to grow and learn together.
Commitment: Marriage is a big commitment. You're making a promise to love and support your partner for the rest of your life. This is not something to be taken lightly.
So, is marriage right for you?
That's a question that only you can answer. But if you're thinking about it, I encourage you to give it a try. It might be the best decision you ever make.
In the words of the great humanist, Margaret Mead:
"Marriage is not a ritual or an end in itself, but a way of life. It's an adventure in the great unknown."
